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But the new book Women in Relationships with Bisexual Men does exactly that. Co-authored by Maria Pallotta-Chiarolli, a lecturer in Social Diversity at Deakin University, and her co-researcher Sara Lubowitz, the work mle based on the insights of 79 Australian women involved with bisexual men.
We spoke to Pallota-Chiarolli about her findings. Hi Maria. Why did you decide to study the "straight women loooing bi men" dynamic? I've been working in the area of sexual diversity, gender, and cultural diversity for a very long time as a researcher and writer.
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They were much more likely, then, to challenge those dominant and horrible misogynistic ideas of being a man. And how did their sexuality translate into being perceived by their female partners as better fathers?
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How did these couples fit in with the wider queer community? One of the other findings that was really important was these women feeling ostracized, not only from the straight world or the hetero world, but the predominantly gay and lesbian communities.
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Woman's happiness in the relationship often had to do with whether the woman knew her partner was bisexual before they became involved, and if the partner was already out. Women who knew about their partner's bisexuality at the beginning at the relationship were in a much better position.
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The number of gay men who marry and then come out later has dropped significantly because society has become much mape accepting of gay men. But the same thing needs to happen for bisexual men.
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Like anyone who comes out, it's not just you who comes out. Your family has to then come out, and your friends have to know about you, and so do your kids.
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Don't assume a Bi male looking for om female male partner is heterosexual just because he's flirting or hooking up with you. Assume nothing, and ask about their sexuality point blank—the women from the study who had the most problems in their relationships with bisexual men had initially assumed they were entering a pooking with a straight man, only to find out the truth later.
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